Identity Audit
Who am I when I'm performing — and who am I when I'm not?
What do I show? What do I hide? What do I emphasize?
What do I actually think, feel, value, and struggle with?
Without judging yourself — where is the gap between these two columns biggest?
Today we began our identity unit by examining the gap between the persona students perform socially and who they actually are. You can open this at home by modeling vulnerability — share a moment when you felt like you were "performing" rather than being real.
Values Under Pressure
What I stand for when the volume of the noise gets loud.
Fill in as many rows as you need. Rows you leave empty are fine.
| The pressure I feel | The integrity response | What it costs | What it gives |
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You don't have to announce it. Just know they're there.
Today students studied how peer pressure works — and what to do about it. At home, you can open this conversation by sharing a time you faced peer pressure. What did you do? What do you wish you had done?
The Choice-Agency Map
Some things I cannot control. My response is always mine.
Type something and press Enter. It drops into that ring. The rings sit inside each other on purpose — the closer to the middle, the more of it is yours.
Today students learned about the space between what happens and how we respond — and that space is where our agency lives. At home, you can use the language: "You can't control that. What can you control?"
A Letter to My Future Self
To the version of me on the last day of this school year.
You write it by hand, fold it, and seal it in an envelope.
Every other sheet in here can be typed. Not this one. The letter gets sealed today and handed back to you in June, and the sealing is the part that makes it work — an envelope you cannot open is a promise a text box cannot make.
Print the letter below, write it in your own handwriting, and seal it. Your teacher keeps the sealed envelopes and does not open them.
Fourteen lines, a signature, and a date — printed the way the lesson uses it.
From, ______________________________ Date: ______________
Your child wrote a letter to their future self today. It will be returned at year-end. Ask them: "What is the most important thing you know about yourself now that you didn't know in September?"
Internal Critic Profile
The critic is not the truth about you. It is a voice with three tricks — and it uses the same three on every human brain.
Not the category — the actual sentence. Write it the way you hear it.
It says…
It says…
Knowing the critic's moves gives you a fighting chance against it.
“Everything is ruined. This is the worst thing that has ever happened.”
Turns one bad moment into a permanent condition.
“I always fail. I never get it right. I am just bad at this.”
Turns one thing into every thing — always, never, everyone.
“Everything that went wrong is my fault.”
Hands you the blame for what was never yours to carry.
Honest AND fair AND kind, without punishment — not a cheerleader, not the critic in disguise. What would that voice say about the same moment? It does not have to feel true yet. Just write it.
Someone specific? An experience? You never have to answer this one.
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988
- Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741
Teacher: fill these two in once. They save on this computer only, alongside everything else.
The Perfectionism Spectrum
Healthy striving and toxic perfectionism are not the same thing.
I aim high, and I'm still okay when I fall short.
Anything less than perfect feels like proof I'm not enough.
Move each marker along the line. Two marks: one for school, one for a different area of your life. There is no right place to be.
In school I marked here because… In another area of life I marked here because…
Today students located themselves on the spectrum between healthy striving and toxic perfectionism. At home, you can ask: "Is there a place you hold yourself to a standard no one could actually meet?"
Rewriting the Script
A script is a story we treat as true without ever examining it.
A sentence I sometimes believe about myself is…
This script may have first come from… (a person, a moment, an experience)
Evidence that this script is NOT the full story of who I am…
What would someone who saw the whole of me — with kindness — say about this script?
An alternative script, in one sentence. It does not have to feel true yet.
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988
- Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741
Teacher: fill these two in once. They save on this computer only, alongside everything else.